Relationships Take Work

Did you know that relationships are always a work in progress? Did you know that relationships can be both the best part of your day and the most definite absolute worst at the exact same time? Did you know that relationships can bring out the best and very worst in you? Did you know that relationships take work? 

I know this, yet am constantly surprised at how often my relationships seem to take a dip. I'm experiencing a dip right now with one of my relationships and being the overly emotional person I am, I take it personally. I get all paranoid over every little thing I've done to have caused the dip and try to figure out how to make patch things up... And usually end up making things worse, at least I think things are worse. Most of the time all this drama is probably just going on in my over active imagination. Matt is constantly reminding me that other people probably aren't thinking about me as often as I am (which is both sad and humbling, depending on the situation). Regardless, I need to learn how to be more steady in my relationships. I let my emotions determine how I treat others, which isn't being a friend. 

Basically, I need to learn when to speak up and when to shut up. Sometimes people need a listening ear. Sometimes people want advice. Sometimes people just need to vent without being judged (Oh boy do I need that a lot! I am so thankful for my friends I can talk freely with and have them know I just need to explain my feelings no matter how irrational they are). Sometimes people just need you to be there. I need to learn the difference and follow through. 

I also need to learn which relationships to invest in. Some relationships I choose to invest in because those people are my true friends or family- worthwhile. Others I invest in because I care what those people think of me- sometimes worthwhile. Others I invest in because I am a creature of habit- need to toss and start over. Relationships require two people to be successful. Some of the relationships I am in are very one-sided. Those need evaluating. Some relationships I push aside may be opportunities I am missing because of my pride. I need I open myself to those. Some relationships are just flat out unhealthy and I need strength to say goodbye. 

Relationships are difficult. They certainly don't have to be, but we are all human and that means we can build up and tear down. Right now I feel torn down. I can't change how others respond to my friendship but I can change who I offer it to and how I react to others. So we'll start there. 

At least I do have the constant of my men at home! Yes, we may try each others' patience... But I love them so completely and I know they love me. Thank you, God, for my men!